Hi and welcome to my blog 😊
I’m Lisa Penn and I’m here to share with you my personal experiences and advice, hoping to help you save your marriage or relationship.
My own marriage went through an awful crisis too and our journey towards healing has taught me some valuable lessons that I want to share with you.
During that tough time, I embarked on a journey of self-reflection and discovery. I really dug deep into our relationship, determined to find out what was causing all the trouble. It involved lots of tears and heartfelt conversations, and it made me realize how we both contributed to the pain and dissatisfaction we felt.
But you know what they say, it’s always darkest before the dawn.
Our commitment to saving our marriage pushed us forward. We sought help from therapists, devoured books and articles, and attended workshops and retreats focused on repairing relationships. Along this path of growth, we learned lessons that changed us forever.
The first lesson was the power of communication. We had forgotten how to truly listen and be present for each other. But as we started having genuine conversations again, we saw how understanding and empathy could transform our relationship. We discovered the beauty of being vulnerable and how it brought us closer than ever.
The second lesson was all about self-reflection and personal growth. To heal our relationship, we had to confront our own flaws and insecurities. By focusing on our personal development, we became better partners for each other. We let go of resentment and embraced forgiveness, understanding that it was crucial to rebuild trust.
As we continued on our journey, we rediscovered the importance of nurturing love and romance. We made a conscious effort to reignite the spark that had dimmed over time. From small gestures of affection to surprising each other with spontaneous date nights, we revived the passion and found joy in shared experiences.
Throughout this transformative process, I felt a deep calling within me – a desire to share the wisdom and insights I gained.
So, I embarked on a new mission. I created this platform to share my story, offer guidance and advice, and remind you that healing is possible. I hope to be a source of support and inspiration, even if it’s just a glimmer of light in the darkness.
Through my writing, I aim to guide you towards a long and blissful marriage—a journey that’s worth fighting for.
As you explore this website, I encourage you to hold onto hope and know that you’re not alone.
I hope I get to help you, even just a little, and I wish for you a long and happy marriage.
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
Reading all of this was just ugh :/ Step out of your comfort zones ladies!! . if he’s not in love anymore, he might genuinely feel that he’s done. you are both probably two completely different people then you were in your 20s, and its okay to make space for a new chapter. He’s not the only one capable of feeling the rush of falling in love again, you’re lovable too! The reality is , he probably is not going to come back. It’s hard to leave, most people don’t do it unless they intuitively feel that they can no longer continue a marriage that is not in alignment with what they want out of life. Write down all the things you wanted and weren’t getting in that marriage. Do YOU. Fall in love with you again. Cry, grieve, be sad but keep doing you. Eventually, someone better suited to you and your needs will come along. Allow your husbands space to be taken up by someone who wants to be there.
you have to learn the important skill of letting go. If hubs is meant to come back to you he will, but don’t let someone who treated you, your needs and your commitment like garbage ️ be your motivation for becoming your best self.
Are you kidding? Being married to a physiologically abusive narcissistic man your advice is to complement him and understand him! Go back to the abusive 1950s where this rubbish belongs!
Hi:) the post I was referring to was never about physically aggressive men. It is about men who are angry and take it out verbally on their spouses. Please don’t put words in my mouth, I would never do this with a physically violent man. I would definitely leave him and go to the police immediately.
Cheaters need to realize that what they’ve done is not a “mistake”. Calling it that allows them to remove themselves from the responsibility of having made a conscious decision to violate their marriage covenant and causing pain and discord within their family. Not to mention being responsible for the pain and discord in the family of the person they cheated with. The ownership of the affair and the fallout from it belongs to the cheater and the cheater only. When they have accepted that responsibility and show the fruits of genuine repentance, remorse and cut off all communication (even seeing their paramour visually in a work setting without communication, meaning find another job if that’s what it takes), then the work of restoration can begin.
Thank you for sharing your story. You have given me hope that healing can take place. I hope one day my husband will forgive me for my terrible mistake, and that I can forgive myself and be the best wife and partner as I can.