“I can’t remember the last time my husband actually listened to me when I talked to him.”
“Or the last time he called me during the day. The last time he asked me how my day was, joked around with me, or bothered to tell me things about his life (before his friends).
It feels like my husband completely ignores me. I feel neglected and humiliated. Why does he act like this? And what can I do to change this?“
I felt I had to answer this reader question on my blog, especially because I get the “why my husband ignores me” questions all the time. I hope you help me out and share what you think about this too.
Are You Burdened with the Pain of Being Ignored?
Do you feel invisible when your husband ignores you? Do you find yourself upset, humiliated and depressed about it, wondering why and how it happened and if your marriage is on the brink of divorce?
Do you feel that talking to your husband is like talking to a brick wall and that he doesn’t care about what you’re saying?
I know you’re at loss, but you’re not alone.
You won’t believe how many marriages suffer from this passive aggressive pattern.
is that no matter the reason your husband intentionally disregards you – you have the power to change it, faster than you can imagine.
You can get his full attention back. You can get his love and caring back. And you can become his #1 priority again.
Stick with me and you’ll’ learn how.
The Real Reason Your Husband Ignores You (It’s Not What You Think)
Ignoring is a passive-aggressive way of dealing with a chronic relationship problem.
When your husband ignores you, no matter if it’s all the time or just after arguments, he is trying to avoid and run away from a problem instead of dealing with it and solving it.
(It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you anymore!)
So he spends all day at work, way more than he really needs to. Or he locks himself in a room playing X-Box or watching who-knows-what on the computer.
He fills his spare time, which should be spent with you, with friends/family/golf/whatever. He never seems to touch you, or kiss you (unless he wants sex) and never tells you he loves you.
When you try to talk to him about it, he gives you lame excuses and ignores your feelings altogether.
Ignoring is always a result of marriage communication problems. And, not knowing how to communicate with each other is the #1 cause of any marital crisis.
The Simple Way To Make Him Notice You Again (& Listen)
Making your husband stop ignoring you is all about communication. The key to getting a man to listen to what you say and open up to you is to understand HIM before you talk about YOU.
I know, annoying advice. You already feel like he has all the power and you always have to understand him while he doesn’t make a tiny effort to do the same?
Your humiliated ego screams.
It’s completely normal.
But I’ll tell you why it’s the key to solving your problems: because this is the way to get everything you ever wanted from him.
Let’s say your husband spends all his time working, or locked up with the computer, and has no desire in spending any time with you.
One day you try to talk to him about it, and this is usually how the conversation goes:
And this is where useless arguments start, or he just leaves the room and runs away from the conversation and both of you end up highly frustrated.
Now, here’s the little-known secret:
In order to be understood, you have to first understand.
In other words, you have to show your man who you understand his situation first before you expect him to understand yours.
When you do that (talking about his needs first), you’ll get it back ten times over. He will instantly cater to your needs, without any resistance.
Can I suggest the right way to do this?
When you are willing to give while you communicate, before you expect to get anything back, you can make your husband do anything you want from him.
You can turn a difficult situation into an easy one, just making a few adjustments with your words.
It’s simple, and it works.
What if It’s Not That Simple for Me?
Believe it or not, there’s probably a relatively simple solution for your problem. It’s hard to believe that when it feels like the gap between you is huge.
But most of the time, a little adjustment in the way we talk to each other, can make a huge difference in our marriage.
Imagine if you were given a set of tools and “tactics” which will show you exactly how to tackle various problems with your man and always come up on top?
That’s exactly what I’m going to show you next.
You’ll learn how to make your husband stop ignoring you, neglecting you, discount and avoid you – Today.
It’s definitely an eye-opener. Click the link above to see it.
When your husband constantly ignores you, your marriage is in serious trouble.
When communication disappears for a long period of time, the intimacy and friendship can be lost forever.
But there are simple ways to completely reverse the situation.
Most of us rely on pure luck or chance and hope that things will somehow get better with time…
The truth, however, is that it won’t unless you do something to change this situation now before it’s too late.
Start with these simple (but genius) tips, and you’ll know what to do next.
Rooting for ya,
What do you think? Why does your spouse ignore you?