Is it possible to save your marriage alone – when only one is trying and your husband doesn’t seem to care if your marriage falls apart?
You may have not thought about it, but I believe that you can fix your relationship – without convincing your husband, begging him, or threatening him.
Marriage is a 2-way street and when a relationship is in crisis, both sides are supposed to do their best to it prevent it from slipping away for good, right?
Sadly, many of us get heartbroken when we find out that our partner is not making the same effort or even not trying at all to save the marriage.
Sometimes the spouse is just looking for a way out and doesn’t want to salvage the relationship.
But many times, he or she is too depressed, confused, or wants to avoid more conflicts.
(Read: 10 signs your husband wants a divorce)
Why Doesn’t He Care That Your Marriage Falling Apart?
A spouse who is reluctant to work on the marriage may be in a place where he or she has lost hope that the relationship can be salvaged. Your partner may feel the marriage is too far gone for any efforts to result in a positive outcome.
The only thing that is within your power is your commitment to the relationship, and the actions YOU take.
3 Steps to Save Your Marriage Alone
If you find yourself alone in working to save your marriage, take these steps to heal your marriage by yourself:
1. Empower Yourself
Regardless of the non-existing effort that your husband is making to save your marriage, you can strengthen your own efforts in committing to a marriage rebuilding process.
(Even if you have a constantly angry husband)
You may have already been pulling double-duty in terms of giving your marriage everything you’ve got.
Now, if you want to save your marriage, you may need to draw on your inner reserves of strength and give a little bit more.
No one can decide for you what your relationship is worth, and what measures you’ll go to to save it.
But if you feel strongly about saving it, deciding that you’re committed to doing so will help you feel empowered.
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2. Remember the Basics
A lot of couples find that with time, their roles have become more adversarial than supportive.
Think about your best friend for a second. Can you remember the last time he/she was feeling depressed or down?
What type of support have you offered them?
It can be easy to forget that your husband needs a friend — in you.
Examine your relationship and see if both of you have forgotten how to be a friend to one another.
Again, you can only control your actions, but leading by example is the most effective way to get what you want out of him, your children, or anyone else.
Your actions, such as making positive changes in how you talk to and behave with your spouse, maybe the catalyst needed to get your husband to want to make changes himself.
Taking a more friendly approach can create a “safe” environment, one where your husband or wife may begin to trust that things really can improve.
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3. Love Yourself (First)
You may wonder how you can give your “all” to the relationship and still have time for yourself.
Well, a huge part of giving in a relationship is being strong within yourself.
You need to nurture yourself as much as your relationship because a healthy relationship requires healthy partners.
Many couples become adversarial because one or both spouses can become resentful, feeling they’ve given up everything for the relationship and there has been nothing left to give to themself.
It’s critical to carve time for yourself, examine your thoughts and emotions, and work through your internal struggles, as well as nurture your own hopes and dreams.
👉 Read: what to do when your husband ignores you
How to Fix Your Marriage Alone When He Cheated
If your spouse has cheated on you, or is having an affair and plans to leave you, it’s a bit of a different story.
When you still love him, and despite the anguish and loss of trust you still want to save your family, there are few steps I would recommend:
1. Ask him the most important questions – spouses that cheat are often reluctant to share the whole truth about the affair.
They slowly drip, drip, drip more facts as time goes by.
Unfortunately, the betrayed spouse has just managed to regain some trust and heal after the last “drip”, and now another drip comes and she’s back to the starting point.
To avoid this, ask him the 10 essential questions to ask a cheating spouse.
2. Sign the post-affair agreement – if he regrets his infidelity and shows remorse – ask him to sign the post-affair agreement, to avoid another cheating episode.
This agreement supports full transparency, which is the most important factor in healing a marriage after adultery.
3. Use separation to fix your marriage alone – if you are separated, wipe your tears and learn how marriage separation can be the golden gate to getting back together – to a better marriage than it ever was.
How to Love Him Back Into Your Marriage
Your husband has chosen the immature cop-out and no longer wants to fight for your marriage.
But you haven’t.
You want to salvage your marriage, but how can you do it without him on board?
You CAN “love your husband back to your marriage”, but it requires that you KNOW the right steps to take if you wish to make that happen.
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You just need YOU.
As always I urge you not to wait. Act now, before it’s too late.
Rooting for ya,
What do you think? Is it possible to save a marriage when only one spouse is trying?