Every marriage has its ups and downs.
But not all “downs” are going to go up again.
Repeated periods of unhappiness, dissatisfaction, anger, frustration, hurt and disappointment, are unmistakable signs of a marriage in (serious) trouble.
Below you’ll find 10 signs that your husband wants a divorce, and what to do about it.
If you’re worried that your husband is looking for a way out, you need to be aware of some of the signs that he is ready to leave you.
Being aware will allow you to take steps to save your marriage – before it’s too late.
A marriage breakdown is always the outcome of a process.
When women are completely shocked by their husbands leaving them, they have probably ignored early warning signs, or just thought that things will work out on their own.
Unfortunately, they rarely do.
10 Signs Your Husband Wants a Divorce
Here are 10 unmistakable signs that your husband may leave you soon (unless of course, you decide to do something about it):
1. He doesn’t want to make plans
If your husband is reluctant to upgrade your home, have a child (or another child), moving, and making large or lasting purchases (even though you know you can afford it financially), consider it as warning signs.
He may refuse to make major or long-term joint decisions because he just isn’t sure if he’s going to be married to you for that much longer.
But even men who are fully committed to their marriage can be hesitant in making big decisions.
So this should only be a warning sign if combined with general ambivalence about your marriage, distance, unhappiness, and more signs like the ones below.
2. He is having an emotional affair
If your husband is showing signs of an emotional affair, never ignore them.
If he has another woman that he can be emotionally intimate with (not necessarily sexually) and who gives him the things (in his mind) that are lacking in your marriage – trouble is knocking on your marital door.
If on top of this he said that he loves you but not in love with you, chances are he is planning to leave you.
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3. You’re always wrong
Be it the style of your hair or the way you walk, if our husband suddenly finds fault with everything you do, he is probably trying to push you away.
If no matter how hard you try, nothing you do is right and he blames you for everything wrong in his life, he is trying to justify (to himself) that leaving you is the right thing to do.
You can find out what’s bothering him by learning how to communicate with him and tear down the huge wall he has put up between the two of you.
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4. Serial cheating
Some men are just not cut out for monogamy and marriage, even if they long for it.
Serial cheaters do not only cheat, but they also tend to blame their spouse and will claim that you are paranoid, controlling, and too jealous.
Unfortunately, a serial cheater is more than likely to leave his marriage, at some point (if he’s not kicked out first).
5. He doesn’t care about your emotions
If your husband seems to completely indifferent to your emotions (for a long period), he may be on his way to leave you.
For example, if he makes comments about hot girls; If he makes fun of you and humiliates you in front of friends and family;
If he inconsiderate on purpose, he is sending you a clear message. He doesn’t care anymore.
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6. He doesn’t want to talk about the marriage
If your husband is well aware that your marriage is in trouble, yet refuses to get help or even discuss it – he may have mentally checked out of your marriage.
If you repeatedly bring up an issue, ask for help and make it clear that your marriage is in trouble and he refuses to even discuss it, see it as an unmistakable sign that he may be planning to end your marriage.
But, I do believe that even in this case, it doesn’t mean that all hope is lost.
7. He is living a separate life
If your husband is gradually fading out from your life – don’t ignore this warning sign.
If he prefers to hang out with his friends, his family, or at work and he finds no time to just be with you – he may be a step out the door.
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8. He has no interest in sex
If your husband has no interest in having sex, know that something serious is going on.
Forget about excuses like fatigue, work stress, etc. A man who is not interested in sex and refuses it even when offered to him – Is probably getting it somewhere else.
Sometimes men can have low sex drive due to a physical problem, but if that’s ruled out then something is up.
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9. He is moving money around
If your husband starts behaving differently with your money, you may have cause for alarm.
If he opens another account (more so if it’s secretly!), moves money from a joint account to a personal one or anything else out of the ordinary, he may be planning for the day he leaves you.
Always be aware of your financial situation and know where all your accounts are and how to access them.
10. He constantly threatens to leave you
When couples fight, they say the most awful things. A common human weakness. We all say things that we later regret.
But if your husband has threatened to leave you more than once, and over the tiniest things, he may mean exactly what he says – He wants to leave you.
Even if he just jokes about it, especially around friends, do not ignore this warning sign.
📢 Here’s the best way to change your husband’s mind about the divorce.
Whatever you do, the main thing is that you do.
Do something about these warning signs to save your marriage – before it’s too late.
Rooting for ya,
What do you think? Can you prevent your spouse from leaving?