Even if your marriage is in crisis and instead of a happy union it feels more like unpaid, overtime work, you can probably still remember how it used to be.
It used to be butterflies in your stomach; it used to be full of romance and laughs. You were once deeply in love. Sometimes it’s hard to understand how your relationship got to where it is now and what exactly happened over time.
There isn’t a way to not do the work when you’re trying to save your marriage. But it doesn’t have to be all hard work and serious conversations.
There is one critical ingredient in saving your marriage that is probably missing for a long time. This guide will reveal this one crucial peace and how to implement it right away.
How to Save a Marriage – The Crtitical Element
When couples talk about saving a marriage, this is what they think it means:
Tense discussions about problems in their marriage; awkward silences; negative thoughts and emotions; hard efforts to develop communication; accusations and fights.
Does this motivate you to saving your marriage? I’m guessing NO.
It’s true; all of these are critical elements if you want to save your marriage or relationship. But – there is one critical element that is missing here and without it will be almost impossible to succeed. The good news: This crucial peace of the puzzle is actually not exhausting at all!
The Crucial Element in Saving Your Marriage
The missing ingredient is…FUN!
Do you remember that word? Do you remember the times when your relationship was mostly fun? The survival of your relationships Demands It!
Fun has probably become a distant memory in light of recent events in your marriage. But in order to move forward as a couple, you and your partner need to rebuild the bond. If both of you focus on building By focusing on building good memories once again, the bad memories and negative feelings will start to lose their power on your relationship.
Here are some steps you can take to regain the fun back to your marriage:
Step #1 – Create a Date List
Instead of the usual tense atmosphere and the constant accusations, take a positive step: sit down and brainstorm date ideas, or separately think about 5 ideas and then combine the lists together.
Step #2 – Choose One Idea and Plan the Date
Calendar the chosen date plan. Do it right now, mark it with ink. It’s time for action. This will show both of your commitment to start building new and positive experiences.
Step #3 – Deciding to Put Aside Conflict for the Date
Even though you are going on “a date”, it doesn’t mean that all the negative thoughts have disappeared. Below the surface there is fire and you will probably contemplate what to discuss, how to behave and what to do on the date.
Agree that for this date, you both commit to relax, leave your conflicts behind and steer clear of “the hot buttons” in your relationship. You may be surprised by how much fun this date can be and how you can very easily fall back in love with your partner and him or her – with you.
This is just one part in your journey to saving your marriage. Other crucial steps need to be taken immediately if you really want to save your marriage and prevent a breakup or divorce.
Rooting for ya,