He’s kissing her passionately. He’s slowly undressing her. He makes love to her. They cuddle and giggle afterwards. He tells her his secrets. He tells her he loves her. They share their own little world.
These are only some of the obsessive, awful images that stab you in the heart over and over again since you found out he had an affair.
And these thoughts never leave you alone. They have taken over you completely. They are with you when you wake up and before you fall asleep and they can make you feel sick to your stomach in the middle of folding the laundry.
Saving a marriage after an affair is impossible without getting rid of the affair images and negative thoughts.
These images keep coming back like a horror movie in your head, causing loss of sleep, decreased appetite and even difficulty to focus and perform simple daily tasks.
If you’ve decided to give your marriage one more chance, here’s how to get rid of the post-affair images and negative thoughts:
3 Steps to Getting Rid of the Horrible Images in Your Head
Step #1 – Special Time
Set the images on a clock. Decide. Set a time during the day when you have a few minutes to sit down and allow these images to flood your head uninterruptedly.
No matter how weird this seems to you, this is how you start to take control of your mind again.
When an image comes to you at any other time, quickly remind yourself that this is not the time for it yet, “they” would have to wait for the scheduled time.
This is the first step – you start to control what comes to your mind – and when. It will give you unbelievable strength.
Step #2 – Open Invitation
At the special time you set for them – let the images in. Remember, you are only temporarily allowing them in and it will only be a few minutes of suffering – instead of all day long.
It’s like jumping into a cold pool, compared to getting into it slowly, step by step, prolonging the suffering.
Step # 3 – Play Time
To prove to yourself that these images have nothing to do with reality – you can “play” with them. While you are in that “special time” – try and rewind them.
Treat them like a movie you are watching on your DVD and just rewind it all the way. This will remind you only your imagination is creating these images. NOT reality.
Try this technique for a few days and you may be surprised by how effective it can be.
How do you deal with obsessive images and negative thoughts?
Rooting for ya,