The 13 Best Marriage Tips I’ve Ever Seen (From the Experts)

Do you know where you’ll find the best marriage tips of all time?

Online. For free.

I spend hours each week reading some of the best marriage advice blogs on the web and find amazingly helpful healthy marriage tips.

These blogs inspire me, teach me new things and I try to implement them in my own marriage every day.

I want to share the best ones with you, and introduce you to my all-time favorite dedicated marriage bloggers, so you can enjoy them as I do.

Are you ready? Grab a cup of coffee and join me!

The 13 Best Marriage Tips (and Where I Found Them)

The first five marriage tips are from the amazingly clever Sheila Wray Gregoire from To Love, Honor and Vacuum:

1. “Talk to your spouse more kindly than you talk to anyone else in the world. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us.”

2. “He needs you to be his cheerleader. Let him know you believe he can take on the world.”

3. “Forgiving means not bringing that old infraction up every time you have a new fight. Let it go.”

4. “When you’re having an argument, listen to understand, don’t listen to find loopholes so you can win. Marriage is either a win/win or a lose/lose. You can’t win by beating someone else down.”

5. “Make one of your favorite topics of conversation how much you admire your spouse. Tell your kids. Tell your friends. And let your spouse hear.”

Sheila Wrey Gregoire is a Christian author of 7 books (my favorite is “To Love, Honor and Vacuum“) and a frequent speaker to women’s groups and marriage conferences.

Don’t miss out on her fabulous blog!

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The next marriage tip is from Fawn Weaver at Happy Wives Club, sharing the one tool that can make your marriage happier today:

6. “Your marriage is not promised another day. Today could be all you have remaining together. Think about this every single time you and your spouse part in the morning and be grateful every time you see one another again in the evening. Now is all you have.

…Gratitude is the gateway to happiness and being grateful for the spouse you have -right here, right now, in this moment- has the power to change your marriage forever.”

Fawn Weaver (AKA the Mrs) is the author of a New York Times Best Seller “Happy Wives Club“. On her extremely helpful blog, she is on a mission to find 1 million women who are living their happily ever after. Why don’t you Join her?

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The next hugely important marriage tip is from Dustin & Bethany from Engaged Marriage, sharing the best kept secret to mind-blowing (marital) sex:

7. “Sex is not just an activity, it’s the most intimate form of communication.”

And here’s why:

“I think we’d all agree that having sex with our spouse more often and in a physically satisfying way is great, but is that all there is to it?

“Sex is much more important to your marriage than a load of laundry, and it should be treated with the awe and respect that it deserves as an amazing means to unity and closeness in your relationship.”

I love the practical and honest advice you can find at Engaged Marriage. You’ll find a ton of advice that you can use without a huge time commitment, in every area of family life.

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The next great marriage tip is from the Shaunti Feldhan blog, sharing why we should actually keep score in our marriage:

8. “In almost every marriage, there are things each partner is doing that are worth noticing and which will make you want to “give back” – once you do notice it!

It turns out that keeping score in that way and paying that generosity forward will keep that healthy cycle going indefinitely.”

Shaunti Feldhan is the author of Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, a Harvard trained social researcher and speaker, don’t miss out on her great relationship advice blog.

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The next tip is from Beth Steffaniak at “Messy Marriage“, sharing the communication “tool” to handle conflicts effectively – Reflective Listening:

9. “With true reflective listening you must parrot or repeat back what you’ve heard the speaker say without interpreting or putting it into your own words. You simply want to let the message enter your brain and then flow back out of your mouth.

Connecting with our mates” through reflective listening – involves coming alongside the speaker, like teammates ready to tackle the issue, rather than fighting against one another.”

See a more detailed explanation and instructions on her blog post.

I love Beth’s blog and you’ll love it too!

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The final 4 marriage tips are from Dave Willis, the author of five books including iVow: Secrets to a Stronger Marriage”:

10. “Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.”

11. “Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.”

12. “Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.”

13. “Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.”

Dave and his wife, Ashley, lead Marriage Seminars and Retreats together and create marriage-building media and content online at www.DaveWillis.org. Lots of great posts over there!

I hope you found these best marriage tips helpful. Please tell me in the comments which tip is your favorite and feel free to add some of your own – there is a little marriage expert in all of us married folks, right?

Rooting for ya,

Lisa

P.S

Do you text to keep the spark and the romance in your marriage? I sure do. Here’s my post with 101 love text messages to send to your husband every day – I think you’re going to like it!:)