You never imagined, on that beautiful day when you said “I do”, that in a few years (or a whole lot of years) you’ll fail to know how to love your husband.
Years of endless responsibilities, raising kids and fighting over financial issues have turned the love of your life to a roommate, at best.
The passion is gone, the romance is out the window and sadly, the friendship and the bond between you and your husband are only a happy memory.
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Is It Possible to Love Your Husband Again?
You don’t want to lose your marriage. You don’t want to lose your family. But you don’t want to go on like this either.
Deep inside something tells you that if you loved him once, you can love your husband again.
And you’re right. You can fall in love with your spouse all over again, unconditionally and forever.
I want to share with you the #1 secret to falling in love with him all over again. Do you want to find out what it is?
Stick with me.
The Man You Fell in Love With – Is He Still There?
It’s impossible to fall in love with a man after you’ve lost the love for him, right?
That’s what everyone will tell you.
In my experience, when a woman falls out of love with a man, it happens at a critical point, an almost unnoticeable point, when her spouse turns from her best friend – To her enemy.
Has your husband turned from your best friend to a man who doesn’t appreciate you, constantly fights with you, is never on your side or worse – Simply ignores you?
You don’t love him anymore because he has changed, right? He is not the same man you married.
But this is where you could be tragically wrong.
Your husband is the exact same man you fell in love with before.
But he is “hiding” somewhere.
Your husband is like a beautiful flower crushed under a giant rock in the desert.
If you lift the rock, you’ll discover the flower again.
The same goes for you: You once loved this man, and you probably still do.
But your feelings are hidden from you. They are locked away behind anger, frustration, loneliness and resentment.
How to Make the Love of Your Life COME BACK
Believe it or not, the simplest and fastest way to fall in love with your husband again is to learn how to communicate with him.
I’m not joking, it’s as simple as that.
I’ll bet my life savings that both of you have forgotten how to treat each other as friends. Years of fighting, built up anger and resentment have erased your ability to function as one.
Instead, it feels like you’re two enemies, stuck together in a bad marriage.
But if you’ll learn how to talk to him, and if you talk to him as a friend, you’ll get it back. And here’s how to do it:
Step #1 – Controlling the Ancient Instinct
You may find it hard to believe, but anger – an ancient instinct intended to help us deal with a TRUE enemy – is exactly what’s turned your husband into your enemy.
We were born into a modern society and we learned to control other ancient instincts: We control our sexual urges (Well, most of us…). We don’t steal someone else’s food just because we’re hungry.
But we can’t seem to control our anger.
When we are attacked (even if it’s just verbally) we immediately feel that the attacker is our enemy.
The moment you verbally attack your spouse or he attacks you (Through accusation, blaming, personal criticism, name-calling), you will automatically identify each other as enemies.
And who can LOVE their enemy?
With time, you feel like the love is lost and all you can think about is how your husband constantly annoys you, or ignores you, or puts you down.
You don’t understand why he is so mean to you, even though you feel you’ve tried everything to fix it.
But the only way to rekindle your love for him (and his love for you) is to learn, just like you’ve learned basic math, how to communicate with him.
Step #1 is learning to control the anger instinct.
Step #2 is to treat him as your best friend. No matter what he does and what he says. Even if he puts you down (and he will, at first, because that’s what he’s used to by now).
If you keep at it, if you don’t give up – you’ll melt his heart. He’ll have no choice in the matter.
When you’ll treat him as a friend (Here’s exactly how to do it), he’ll have to treat you the same. And the man who used to be your best friend will come back to you.
[yellowbox]If you need a good guide about the exact steps you need to take to break down his and your walls and restore the love – this is what I recommend.[/yellowbox]
Whatever you do, just do something.
Falling for your spouse and rebuilding the love in your marriage is not an impossible mission. It’s easier than you think. And whatever happens, at least you’ll know you’ve tried. You’ve given it your best shot.
This is what marriage is about, this is what love is about.
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
P.S
What do you think is the best way to start loving your husband again? I’d love to know!
Love that you sign this with “rooting for ya!” as that will most certainly reach someone who needs to hear that. Yes, keeping anger far from your marriage is so key. My husband and I have been best friends for a decade and anger simply has no place in our home or lives. But where anger often wants to reside, we leave for love only.