No matter how long you’ve been married, and no matter how long your marriage has been in trouble, you can never get quite prepared to hear that your husband doesn’t love you anymore.
How can make your husband love you again?
No matter how much you try to make things better, he refuses to talk to you, he refuses to listen to you, and he refuses counseling.
And then he says he wants to leave. Boom. It feels like there’s no going back now.
How Do I Make My Husband Love Me Again?
When you look back at the relationship you used to have, and the passionate love you shared, this question seems almost surreal.
Where did it go? What happened? How can two people who were so much in love turn into strangers living in the same house?
Well, you may be surprised to learn that things are not always the way they appear.
Just because your husband said he doesn’t love you, doesn’t mean that it’s TRUE.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that your marriage is over.
So…Is it possible to make your husband fall in love with you all over again?
Well, in my experience, when your spouse says he no longer loves you, it doesn’t always mean the love is dead.
It may simply mean the love has been covered up by anger, frustration, resentment, or other emotions.
👉 Here’s what to do when you think your husband hates you
Did Your Husband Say He Doesn’t Love You?
To justify his feelings, your husband may even start to rewrite history to match his claim that love is dead. He may say things like “I never really loved you”, or “I married you out of obligation:”
It’s like stabbing you in the heart and then twisting the knife.
I really resonate with what marriage counselor Mort Fertel has to say about this:
The reason so many people believe they don’t love their spouse is NOT about their spouse. It’s that they don’t like THEMSELVES. And while everyone else in their life is like a mirror reflecting their personality (the mask that we show other people) – their spouse is a mirror reflecting their character (the true us). And most people don’t like what they see.
If this strikes a chord deep down – I highly recommend that you get Mort Fertel’s free marriage advice.
How to Make Your Husband Love You Again
Right now, you can start with 3 specific steps to get your husband’s attention and his love for you. These are NOT tricks, gimmicks, or clever psychological games.
These steps are not meant to get your relationship back to where it was before the love evaporated.
These steps will help you make your relationship better than it used to be.
1. Regain Trust
You are probably aware that your marriage has more lies than truth in it right now. If your relationship was open and honest, it would not have deteriorated to where it’s at right now.
(This is especially true if your husband said he doesn’t love you, right after confessing about an affair.)
You have to discover where trust still exists and how to regain the trust back in your spouse, even after he has cheated on you.
You have to learn how to talk like friends again.
Without restoring trust and honesty, your husband will not realize how much he loves YOU.
2. Become Best Friends Again
In an open and healthy marriage, love can’t stay “dead”. If your husband said he doesn’t love you, I can guess that your communication style is unhealthy or non-existent.
When this happens, you send the message that your spouse isn’t special to you anymore, he is a nuisance, and that your life would be better off without him.
👉 You simply must turn this around, and marriage coach Mort Fertel shows you how to do it HERE.
Love in relationships follows specific laws which can be learned and implemented to bring back the love to your marriage. These laws can be compared to physical laws governing the universe and can result in predictable outcomes. This is why I recommend that you learn these skills through the link above.
3. Bring Back the Spark
Can you imagine having all that love and passion you used to have – back in your relationship?
Just having fun with your husband will create a series of positive emotions and behaviors that may save your marriage.
You have to learn about the ways to bring back the fun and the laughter into your marriage. If your husband has left, this can be quite tricky.
In this case, I would recommend a good texting plan. Texting is a powerful way to get an ex back, without losing your dignity.
If your husband still lives with you, you have to learn how to reignite the spark – how to decide what to do for fun and how to get him on board.
Just one fun date with your husband can remind him of how much he adores you and wants to be with you and only you.
4. Express Gratitude
By expressing gratitude (even for small daily things), you acknowledge and celebrate the positive aspects of your relationships, and strengthen the bond between you.
Gratitude can be especially effective when the relationships lack kindness or enthusiasm. It can be the smallest thing – even just thanking him for expressing his opinions about something or making you a cup of coffee.
This study has shown spousal gratitude was the most important predictor of marital quality, regardless of the couple’s levels of financial strain and negative communication patterns, and that it can protect couples from the effects of conflict.
As I always say, just don’t wait. Act now, before it’s too late.
Rooting for ya,