Do you believe that you have to work hard to improve your marriage?
Did someone convince you that all marriage challenges require hours of counseling and endless talks about your relationship?
Well, that’s not necessarily true.
Working on your marriage doesn’t have to be work at all.
It can be easy, and fun.
Tiny acts of kindness can lead to a huge positive change in your marriage.
In fact, many experts claim that you should stop solving your marriage problems altogether (Here’s why).
However:
All relationships need a little pick-me-up sometimes, even the best ones.
All you have to do is to start doing two or three of these quick and easy tips, and you’ll instantly change the dynamics in your marriage.
The tips you’ll find here are:
- Not expensive
- Won’t take more than 5 minutes
Here we go:
31 Easy Ways to Improve Your Marriage
1. Text your love and appreciation – every man likes to be reminded that he is loved and appreciated.
When he is not at home or around you – sending a short love text message can be the perfect pick me up, a thoughtful surprise and it will keep you on his mind all day.
For example:
- “I’m so lucky you’re my best friend”
- “I still fall for you every day”
- “Have I mentioned today how lucky I am to be in love with you?”
- You are hilarious, still laughing about…
- This has been a challenging time, and I appreciate you so much.”
👉 Want more? See 101 short love text messages HERE.
2. When you are together, turn off both your phones and talk to each other while keeping eye contact.
3. Pull your car over and make out.
4. Take 2 minutes to think about all of his positive traits. Tell him why you love him.
5. Go on a short (or long) walk and hold hands.
6. Spice up your marriage through texting – you can bring the romance and passion back to your marriage – simply by pushing a few buttons on your cell phone.
For example:
You: “When I see you tonight I’m going to…”
Him: “What?”
You: “Oh, you’ll find out… “
👉 Here are 3 powerful ways to use texting to spice up your marriage (with examples)
7. Take 5 minutes to plan your next date night. Make date nights a priority. Time together alone is vital for your relationship.
👉 Here are 31 fabulous date night ideas to get you started.
8. Give him an honest compliment.
9. Always try to answer the phone when he calls.
10. Praise him in front of the kids.
11. When he gets home – greet him at the door, drop everything you’re doing and kiss him.
12. Brag about him to your family or friends and make sure he can hear it.
13. Bring him a drink or a snack when he works at his desk.
14. Keep your flirt on – flirting cannot be saved for anniversaries. It’s an easy way to keep the spark in your marriage and the romance alive.
For example:
- Smack his butt – when he’s walking by.
- A flirt note – write a flirty note (like “I’m available and I think you’re cute!”) and have one of your kids give it to him while you’re spending time as a family together.
👉 See how to flirt with your husband (21 cute/naughty ways!)
15. Wear something you know he loves.
16. Ask his advice on something and then follow it.
17. Remind him of a funny moment from your past. Laughter reminiscence packs an additional punch because you relive the moment by laughing again.
18. Notice his effort about something and acknowledge it. Sincerely thank him for it.
For example:
- “Thank you for fixing…even though it’s so hot outside”
- “Thank you for playing with the kids, even though you’re tired from work”.
19. Go to bed together.
20. Turn on some catchy music while you’re cooking and start dancing together.
21. Have sex in a different place. Try having sex in a room or area you’ve never done it in.
22. Start a pillow fight.
23. Read a chapter from a marriage/relationship book together, and talk about it. It’s a cheap and easy way to start intimate conversations.
24. Nurture your spiritual connection by starting the day with a prayer together.
25. Take 5 minutes to solve your financial issues. One baby step at a time.
26. Next time you’re in bed pull the covers over your head and have a whispered conversation
27. Think of one weird or quirky thing he does that you love and tell him about it.
28. Next time you’re at the corner store, pick up his favorite candy or gum.
29. Invite his best friend to dinner.
30. Next time you wake up before him, turn off the alarm clock and wake him by yourself – by kissing his forehead.
31. Give him a surprise quick shoulder massage.
Conclusion
Improving your marriage does not have to involve hard work, online couples therapy, and endless “relationship talks”.
The butterfly effect, when small causes can have large effects – can work in any marriage – including yours.
Just try a few of these quick ways to strengthen your bond, reignite the spark and revive the romance every other day – and you’ll be amazed by the results.
I’m sure I’ve left out a few more great ideas, I’d love for you to contribute and let us know about more tips I haven’t thought about, in the comments below.
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
JoeThaPlumber says
Most of these are great and simple things to do to show your spouse how you feel. I would just add as a precursor to mean it when you do these things and do not expect anything in return. Do it because you love them. Also, fight emotional and sexual ambivalence with everything you’ve got because it will eventually kill a relationship. DON’T make the kids, friends, family or work number one.
Your spouse is #1 and has been since you fell in love with them. Sometimes we forget that.
Try to remember that once upon a time, they were your soulmate, teammate, BFF and partner-in-crime, ride-or-die so do not make them suffer or feel lower in importance because you also have other priorities. The only thing that changed the way you treat them now versus then, is the way you treat them.
P.S. Yes, I am a dude. I have enough sensitivity to sense things aren’t all good and am manly enough to want to do something about it.
Raquel Winningham says
You are correct, sometimes we forget our spouse should be our priority. I am glad to hear this from a male.
Peggy says
Great stuff!!!!!
Liz says
I love #3!! I’ll have to implement some of these when my hubby comes home from deployment. #6 might be more like torture for us both at this point!