I assure you:
Ignoring your husband WILL get his attention.
The question is:
Is it the KIND of attention you really want?
Will it fulfill your secret wish – to get his appreciation, love and affection back?
Because whether you admit it or not – that’s what you really want.
Even if you think you just want to teach him a lesson, to hurt him back.
When you look a little deeper inside – you know what you really want is for him to appreciate you, to support you, to romance you, to love you.
In this post, I would like to offer you an alternative.
It will still involve ignoring your husband – but with a “twist”.
Would you like to know what it is?
Pros & Cons of Ignoring Your Husband
Let’s start with the reason you want to ignore your spouse, o.k?
O.k, so let’s start with the pros:
Ignoring your spouse, or giving him the silent treatment – obviously cannot be ignored.
There’s no way he won’t notice you are not talking to him and treating him like he doesn’t exist.
It’s an easy way to get him to realize that he has hurt your feelings.
After all, if you don’t react in some way – how will he know that he has done something wrong?
And whether he shows it or not – he WILL be upset about it.
(👉 See 14 quotes about being ignored by someone you love)
So if you want to teach him a lesson – there’s no doubt he’ll learn it.
But before you go and use the cold shoulder classic, here are the downsides of ignoring your husband to get his attention:
- Cold shouldering in the long term can be toxic for your marriage. If there is no communication – there cannot be a true bond between two people in a relationship.
- Ignoring your spouse will, at some point – make him angry. His ego will be hurt, and he may want to continue the circle of negativity by ignoring you back or hurting your feeling even more.
- This silent between the two of you may have a very negative impact on your children, if you have any. They’ll notice it and may become highly stressed about it.
- Lack of communication may cause your husband to interpret your behavior in the wrong way. He may think that the reason for it is not the one you meant.
The good news is:
There’s an alternative.
A healthy way to ignore your husband – which will not only get his attention faster but will make YOU feel better – immediately.
The Healthy Way to Get His Attention (He’ll be Shocked by This)
Here’s the deal:
What you really have to ignore is your husband’s NEGATIVE behavior towards you.
At the same time, you have to focus on and highlight ANY positive behavior or actions towards you.
All of this is done in your mind. It’s not external. You choose how to react NOT towards him – but in your mind.
Here’s an example:
Your husband just criticized you or judged you?
You ignore it. You acknowledge, for a second, how you feel about it, and then you put a stop sign. No thoughts about this are allowed.
On the other hand:
Your husband woke up, said “good morning” and smiled?
You highlight it. You focus on it for a few minutes. In your heart, you feel gratitude.
Use the well-established spiritual (and these days – also scientific) laws of the universe:
What you focus on – grows.
What you ignore – disappears.
What Happens When You Only Ignore His Negative Behavior?
Don’t mope around the house feeling unwanted, undesirable, neglected and unappreciated.
When you do that, you will only attract more thoughts to prove it, and the same thoughts will create the same feeling – forever.
And if you look for it – you’ll find it. I assure you.
Take some actions to show yourself how much you love yourself.
(Who can resist someone who loves herself?)
Focus on things you enjoy.
Take him out of the picture, mentally, for a few weeks or a month.
I have done this many times in my life, and not just with my husband.
And if I stick to it, and monitor my thoughts, and how they lead me to the same feelings and actions – and decide to focus on my future instead of the past – I always get what I want.
When you radiate happiness and wholeness, without depending on ANYONE else to feel it – you become irresistible.
He will admire you.
And the best part?
He won’t be able to remain in him low frequency for long.
Higher frequency always lifts lower frequency around it.
It’s just a law of nature.
But you’ll have to try it. You’ll have to do it, and you’ll have to stick to it.
There’s a little voice inside you, all the time, telling you:
– Renee Wade, thefemininewoman.com
I don’t know if you’ll agree with me, but I truly believe I’ve found the best way to get your spouse’s attention.
It’s a positive way, instead of a negative way.
It will reduce the stress in your life, instead of amplifying it when you have to ignore your husband (and insist on being mad at him, or hurt by him).
If you do it the right way and stick with it – you’ll become a happier person, and this joy and love for life won’t depend upon what he said, did, or didn’t do.
When you are happy, and whole – everyone will fall in love with you. Including your husband. 🙂
What do you think? Do you agree? Disagree?
Let me know in the comments below.
Rooting for ya,