Why is it that men just can’t stop themselves from cheating?
No matter how attractive you are, and how much he loves you, your man probably “checks out” other women all the time.
Even the most attractive women in the world have been cheated on and will keep being cheated on until the end of time.
Is there a way to stop your spouse from cheating?
How to Keep Your Husband From Cheating
No matter what we’ll do, our husbands or boyfriends are wired to be visual. We can’t change that. No choice but to accept this fact.
Beautiful women are not only attractive because of their looks. The fact that they are strangers adds mystery to them, which makes them even more attractive.
But we are not defenseless against Victoria’s Secret models or all other gorgeous women that seem to be everywhere.
Nature has given you a few sneaky ways to keep your husband looking at you and to be the only woman he really looks at. One of them is a hormone called “Oxytocin”:
1. Use Oxytocine to Your Advantage
Have you ever heard about the neurochemical Oxytocin?
A study from the University of Bonn has found that the neurochemical oxytocin just may be a fidelity drug for monogamous relationships.
The researchers administered oxytocin or a placebo through a nasal spray (why can’t this be commercially available?…). An hour later, the men were introduced to attractive women.
The women would alter their distance from the men and the men were asked to indicate if the distance was comfortable to them or made them feel uncomfortable.
The men in committed relationships (as opposed to those who were single) preferred to keep a greater distance from attractive women!
Apparently, women are created with the ability to produce Oxytocin to keep our men faithful – with the simple gift of touch.
Hugging your husband? Oxytocin is produced.
Holding hands? Kissing? Oxytocin.
Spooning in bed? And of course sex? Oxytocin.
Oxytocin can keep your husband from looking at other women.
2. Regular Intimacy
The importance of regular sex in a marriage is undeniable. A man who regularly has sex with his wife (no matter the quality of it by the way), is less likely to look at other women or consider cheating.
Sex is not only an emotional need for men, but it’s also important to them physically. Men crave sex as much as they crave food or water.
Sex for them is a basic need and when it’s not met, well, just try to see how long you can go without food and you’ll understand (hard to believe, but many men have given me this example).
If for some reason you don’t have enough sex (for most married men that means at least once a week), it may become a bit difficult to keep your husband from looking at other women.
It’s a different ball game if you have trust issues, due to past infidelity.
If your husband has cheated on you in the past and you can’t seem to get over it, sex is the first place that “gets hit”.
You have to learn to deal with painful emotions to rebuild the love in your marriage.
👉 You have to learn to regain trust. And even if it seems impossible, it is not.
Keeping your husband from cheating will be impossible until you rebuild the trust and love in your relationship.
3. The Power of Texting
Wait, don’t laugh just yet.
Texting is an extremely powerful way to keep your spouse’s attention on you and you only – where ever he is!
Just think about it: What is the one thing that goes everywhere with your man, and gets his attention immediately no matter how busy he is or what he is doing?
That’s right. His mobile phone.
Texting is the secret key to your man’s romantic mind.
Believe me, he won’t stare at his attractive co-worker after he has just received this text message from you:
All I can do is sit here and imagine what it’s going to be like when I see you again
That’s it. He will spend the rest of his day thinking about and trying to find out what you imagined. You’ve put a lockdown on his mind.
Don’t believe me? Just give it a try.
One text will not be enough, of course, but there are plenty of texts to spice up your relationship – that you can send to your husband to keep him interested in you alone.
For me, it was one of those things that were too good to be true. But it works – like a charm.
Is it Your Responsibility to Stop Him from Cheating?
Many people believe that it is solely a woman’s responsibility to stop her husband from cheating. However, there are other ways to approach the situation that challenge this traditional belief:
1. Taking care of yourself – this is an important aspect of any relationship, especially when it comes to preventing infidelity. Instead of focusing on stopping your husband from cheating, consider prioritizing your own personal growth and happiness.
For example, you might explore new hobbies, spend time connecting with friends and family, or seek online professional therapy to address any underlying issues that are ruining your relationship.
2. Open and honest communication – instead of trying to control or manipulate your husband’s behavior, try having an open and honest conversation about your feelings and concerns (if you haven’t tried that already).
This can create a safe and supportive space for both of you to express your needs and work together towards a solution that both of you want. Also, it is the complete opposite of giving him an ultimatum.
3. Letting go – sometimes, despite your best efforts, there may be situations where letting go of the relationship is the best course of action. If your husband continues to cheat despite your efforts (find out: Is he a serial cheater?), it may be time to focus on moving forward and finding happiness elsewhere.
I truly believe that taking care of yourself and your own needs is always a valid and important choice, no matter what the outcome may be. And if you have kids, it is better for them as well.
Before You Go…
If you suspect that your husband has cheated – here are the cheating signs you need to look for. If you are thinking about confronting him – don’t. Please read my post about how to confront a cheater – the right way.
Rooting for ya,