It’s a truly devastating thing to find out that your husband, your best friend, has cheated on you.
How do you deal with the shock, the anger, the betrayal, the broken heart?
Here you’ll find the best quotes about cheating husbands, coping with infidelity, and healing from cheating, deception, and betrayal – to help you sort out your feelings and maybe feel a little better.
45 Quotes About Cheating Husbands
Let’s start with cheating quotes for him:
Cheating Husband Quotes for Him (to Make Him See How You Feel)
You didn’t just cheat on me; you cheated on us. You didn’t just break my heart; you broke our future.
Betrayal was what I felt, my heart broken not just by a guy I was in love with, but also by, as I once believed, a true friend.
I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.
― Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
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I gave my heart to a man who loved me, who wanted to be with me. Who ultimately was afraid of all I offered.
If you cheat on someone that is willing to do anything for you, you actually cheated yourself out of true loyalty.
The most important quality that an unfaithful spouse needs in order to successfully regain their offended partner’s trust, is that the betrayer “gets it”. “Getting it” means that the straying spouses understand the wrongness of the their behaviors and the depth of the pain they have caused. They need to affectively renounce their old behaviors and develop a keen sense of what it’s like to be in their partners’ shoes.
– Linda J. Macdonald, How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair
Cheating is easy, try something more challenging like being faithful.
– Tony Robbins
Cheating on a girl is deeper than people realize. It destroys her outlook on love, her future relationships, and her peace within herself.
Infidelity is not caused by a lack of love, but a lack of respect.
– Dr. Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages
The worst kind of hurt is betrayal because it means someone was willing to hurt you just to make themselves feel better.”
Coping with a Cheating Husband Quotes
You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.
It’s easy to say that cheating is unacceptable.
And of course, it is. But when you’re faced with the consequences of ending a marriage—like weekends without the kids, less money, a smaller house, a lower standard of living, the prospect of dating again, and tearing up years of photos—many people can’t go there.
– Mort Fertel, Marriage Fitness
No woman could love a cheater and not pay the price for it.
I’ve told Billy if I ever caught him cheating, I wouldn’t kill him because I love his children and they need a dad. But I would beat him up. I know where all of his sports injuries are.
Infidelity has absolutely nothing to do with love. It has to do with an emptiness or a now bankrupt coping mechanism within your spouse that has been there long before they met you. An affair is an attempt to escape from the reality of one’s self.
– Dr. Robert Huizenga
Virtually all women will always carry the scars and a deep sense of loss and grief from the betrayal. Whether a woman has stayed, left, or been left, it must be remembered that time is the salve on this journey towards forgiveness and healing, because it is also a process of grieving.
—Meryn G. Callander
Something deep inside you wants to believe that your spouse could never really, actually, break the sacred vow between you. Intimacy with anyone else? Unreal, unthinkable.
– Michelle Weiner-Davis – “Healing from Infidelity“
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is not on the branch but on her own wings.
Infidelity is a form of emotional abuse that can leave lasting scars on a relationship.
– Dr. Pat Love, The Truth About Love
The worst kind of hurt is betrayal because it means someone was willing to hurt you just to make themselves feel better.
Stray cats are like two-timing men. He got tired of you and took off. He doesn’t find anyone new? He’ll come slinking back. By then, if you’re smart, you’ll have decided you’re better off without him.
― Kelley Armstrong, Visions
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Most people cheat because they’re paying more attention to what they’re missing rather than what they have.
It wasn’t about who he chose. I had moments of like: “Okay, I’m not sexy enough? I’m not pretty enough? Am I not smart enough?” Then I immediately stopped. “No, no, no — don’t start doing that.” Because you can get stuck in that cycle and you can carry that onto other things.
– Eva Longoria
It’s about realizing it’s not about you. When someone cheats on you, it’s about them… about their shortcomings. It makes it feel like it’s about our shortcomings, like there was something wrong with us,” Lopez said. “But the truth is, that it’s really their ego, and what they need to fill within themselves that drives them to do things like that. Not because you weren’t enough.
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– Jenniffer Lopez
I do think that with any kind of infidelity, on some level – unless you’re dealing with a sociopath – there’s always a reason.
– Jessica Capshaw
Quotes about lying and Trust in a marriage
Infidelity is not about love but about a personal need system out of wack, an inability to set boundaries, a sense of entitlement, an addiction problem, unresolved internal tension from a long time ago, a deep-seated belief of inadequacy plus more.
– Dr. Robert Huizenga, Break Free from the Affair
The truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have a greater capacity to diminish us than exposed ones. They erode our strength, our self-esteem, our very foundation.
— Cheryl Hughes
If you succeed in cheating someone, don’t think that the person is a fool. Realize that the person trusted you much more than you deserved.
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I trusted you but now your words mean nothing to me, because your actions spoke the truth.
“One lie has the power to tarnish a thousand truths.”
― Al David
I always find the worst lies are told in relationships – I learned to never lie about your happiness in order to save someone’s feelings from being hurt.
– Kirsten Prout
A wife who discomforts you with truth is better than a mistress who massages you with lies.
― Matshona Dhliwayo
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By a lie, a man… annihilates his dignity as a man.
– Immanuel Kant
I am a good enough person to forgive you. But not stupid enough to trust you again.
In a marriage, in any long-term relationship, do not bother with lying. There’s no time for that. If you have any sort of secret life, it will come back to haunt you.
– Andy Garcia
A liar deceives himself more than anyone, for he believes he can remain a person of good character when he cannot.
– Richelle E. Goodrich
Trust is like a paper, once it’s crumbled it can’t be perfect.
As a woman who experienced infidelity firsthand, I will always advise my girlfriends to only trust their husbands 95 percent and leave 5 percent for human error.
– Yolanda Hadid
Emotional Infidelity Quotes
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People who truly are initially just friends or just friendly collegues slowly move onto the slippery slope of infidelity. In the “new infidelity”, secret emotional intimacy is the first warning sign of impending betrayal. Yet most people don’t recognize it as such until they’ve become physically intimate.
– Shirley P. Glass, Not Just Friends
If it’s true that men and women can be ‘just friends’ then how come all cheaters first start out as “just friends”?
― Oliver Markus Malloy, Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends
Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming, but we can choose which ones to surf.
– Jonatan Mårtensson
Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
– Sam Keen
I think that women are more sensitive to emotional infidelity than men. I think men are more scared of physical infidelity.
– Olivia Wilde
Learn how to cope with his emotional affair – before it’s too late.
Resources to Help You Cope with Infidelity
From my own experience, I believe that You must have reliable, wise, and practical guidance if you are rambling through the emotional wasteland of infidelity.
Your recovery depends on embracing and following a particular path.
Here are my 2 most recommended resources:
Dr. Robert Huizenga’s ebook – “Break Free from the Affair“.
Rooting for ya,